Romantic, Family, and Platonic Relationship Challenges

Modern support for the people-pleasers, perfectionists, and caretakers

You’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else that you’ve lost yourself in the process

Do you sometimes feel like you don’t deserve for your needs to be met? Or you might be thinking, “Needs? I don’t have any!” Maybe no one has even asked you about what your needs are. Your role is taking care of others. You may have done this since you were little. You pride yourself on being a good friend, partner, parent, child, etc. Any feelings or needs you have are stuffed down.

Maybe you have people in your life, but you still feel so alone. Or you struggle to connect with others. You constantly worry if people are upset with you—even thinking about conflict makes you nauseous. Or the thought of saying no causes your chest to tighten. You are constantly trying to meet the expectations and demands of others, even if it’s at the expense of your wellbeing.

But you still have that voice that tells you that you aren’t good enough. Or that you are not doing enough. So you try harder. And maybe you feel temporarily validated or reassured. But that feeling is fleeting.

Do you…

wish there was someone who could take care of you? Who could meet your needs?
constantly worry that you will be rejected, judged, or abandoned?
wish you could lay your mask down and show others the real you? Maybe you don’t know who you are because you’ve spent your whole life pretending.
feel like your self-worth is based on how others perceive you?
worry you are a burden?

Your people-pleasing and caretaking parts have kept you safe. But now it’s time to let them know that you’ve got it from here.

First things first: Every single human being has needs. And you’re no different. We all want to be accepted by others. But it shouldn’t come at the cost of losing yourself.

But you deserve to have people in your life who care about you, who want you to put yourself first, who treat you well, and who don’t need you to save them.

Here is some of the work we might do in therapy:

Explore the origins of your people-pleasing and caretaking and how it’s kept you safe.
(Re)discover yourself.
Learning how to set boundaries and say no.
Re-evaluate the relationships in your life.
Learn that prioritizing yourself does not mean you are a bad person.
Unpacking core-beliefs and shame.
Processing attachment, childhood, or relational trauma.
Learn how to validate yourself.
Move from insecure attachments to secure ones.
Explore what you want out of your relationships and what healthy relationships look like.

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imagine if you…

Stopped apologizing for having needs

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Could trust yourself and what you want out of your relationships

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Spend less time worried about what people think about you

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I want you to know:

You don’t have to stay in relationships that are not serving you.

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Common questions about therapy for relationship challenges

I do! I love helping couples, friends, and family members learn how to set boundaries, learn how to hold each person's emotional experience without having to try and fix one another, repair attachment wounds, and, recognize and honor their own needs and each other's.
Of course! I believe that people-pleasing and caretaking can also be a form of emotional unavailability. If we don't let people see the real us, we won't get hurt.
We also live in a disconnected world where many people feel lonely and are desperately seeking connection.
Go to my Contact page or email me directly at therapywithrani@gmail.com to ask additional questions or inquire about scheduling your free 20-minute video consultation.