THERAPY FOR GRIEF AND LIFE CHANGES IN CALIFORNIA

Honor your grief. Reconnect to yourself.

While life is full of changes, some of them can be so painful.

Maybe life has been going okay when one day your whole world is shattered. You learn someone close to you has passed away. Or your partner tells you they no longer love you. Or you get a call from your doctor telling you that you have cancer. You are in shock. You don’t know what to do next. Your legs feel as if they are going to give out. You think, “This can’t be happening.”

Other times, you feel like the changes just keep coming. You can barely process one before another hits. You feel like you are drowning and can’t catch your breath. Or the changes happen slowly over time. You witness your loved one get sicker as the days or weeks go on. Or You live with a chronic illness that continues to worsen, or you find that treatments and medications are no longer helping. Maybe your best friend stops responding to your texts and picking up your calls but is still active on social media. Weeks go by without a response. You constantly feel anxious and on edge. You start to lose hope in the future.

Here are some other types of losses that can result in grief:

Divorce
Infertility or not being able to be a parent for other reasons
Employment changes
Sacrificing so much for your dream(s), only to find you’re unhappy
Shifts in identity
Time lost to trauma or mental health changes
Moving to a new city due to a circumstance out of your control
Receiving a delayed diagnosis (a physical condition, a mental health condition, autism, or ADHD)
Loss of trust in the world
Loss of dreams or hopes for the future

You’re tired of feeling caught in this cycle:

You yearn for the way things used to be. You tell yourself you would do anything to go back in time. You may even convince yourself that it’s all your fault. You may think, “If only I did xyz, then things would be different.”
Your world has completely stopped. Your purpose and plans completely freeze over. You don’t know where to go from here. You may feel numb or empty. You may feel a tightness in your chest or knots in your stomach. Maybe you cry or you just move through the day on autopilot.
You feel alone and like no one understands what you’re going through. And maybe the person you would reach out to is the one who is no longer there.

how i can help

I’m here to witness your grief, help you navigate this new chapter, and remind you that you are not doing this wrong and are not broken.

Each loss is unique, which means our work together will be individualized. But what I can tell you is that I will never pressure you to “move on” or “get over it.” The truth is, our grief stays with us in many cases. I’ve experienced all sorts of loss, and I still carry each one in my heart. Some I feel on a more day-to-day level while others are less present but no less meaningful.

I believe that grief never goes away. Instead, it shifts and changes as we grow around it. We may feel okay for some periods of time only to be hit with a wave that knocks us off our feet.

I also believe that loss can remind of what really matters. Some non-death related losses can allow to discover parts of ourselves that have been hidden away or prompt us to go after what we truly want.

There is a lot of both/and that happens when we navigate life changes. You’ll likely feel conflicting emotions, like feeling angry and sad at the same time. We’ll honor the grief and acknowledge the pain while exploring what life can now look like.

I’m here to hold space for all of it. Our work may be identifying what you want out of this next chapter, redefining your values, exploring what’s important to you and how to go after what you want, getting to know yourself, processing trauma, exploring how to still live a meaningful life even if it looks different than you intended to, or sitting with the pain and emotions. Everyone has their own timeline.

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imagine if you…

Had a space where you could grieve without any pressure to “get over it”

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Could explore the parts of you that are stuck on what you could have done differently

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Could discover what you need and want in this next chapter of life

I want you to know:

You deserve a space to feel all of your emotions.

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Common questions about grief and life changes?

These losses can feel different than grieving the death of a loved one as there is ongoing uncertainty of what will happen next, and there is an ongoing sense of helpless and powerlessness as your world continues to shift. The losses may continue to pile up as you move through life. This can look like experiencing a flare-up, missing out on an important event due to illness, missing out on a family gathering due to going no-contact, seeing your ex out in the world, seeing someone hang out with your former friend, knowing your person is still alive but not in your life, or seeing a friend get their dream job while you are struggling to figure out your own career change.
You will also likely be feeling other emotions too, including anxiety and stress, depression or sadness, overwhelm, fear, panic, and uncertainty about the future.
I do! I love working with couples, friends, and families who are navigating a life change as some changes can affect multiple people. This work will look similar, but the big difference is we will explore how this change impacts the relationship.
Go to my Contact page or email me directly at therapywithrani@gmail.com to ask additional questions or inquire about scheduling your free 20-minute video consultation.